“He was despised and rejected by men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief.” (Isaiah 53:3)
Sometimes we feel alone in this world. It's not our home. It happens. It is a human emotion and feeling created in us by God. If you haven’t yet, there is bound to come a day when loneliness will attack, right at your core being and may be almost debilitating! I would dare say it's odd if you were to never experience it in this fallen world!
I've heard it said, “Oh that's a sin. God is ever with us, you shouldn't be lonely. What's wrong with you? Turn it over to the Lord.” In the most real sense, yes, He is with us every moment of every day (Hebrews 13:5) and yes, you can turn it over to the Lord but loneliness may still pervade.
Jesus understands this feeling. He is a Man and in a very human sense, He was very alone! Hebrews 4:15 says He was without sin...but He lived in a world bound up, tormented and cursed by sin where death reigns over the current reality of nature's workings. We think it's bad living here at times... Jesus was sinless and lived in a sin-filled world! At best, it was tormenting. Look at 2 Peter 2:8. It says Lot vexed his soul from day to day living amongst the filth. Lot was a sinner living in the sinful world and it was vexing his soul! Here's the Holy One, One third of the Godhead, in sinless flesh living among it all.
His parents were sinners, His siblings, the kids He grew up with, the ones He had contact with on a daily basis; all corrupted. He'd never quite fit into any group. I'm sure kids, being kids, would have noticed things, said things, mocked Him at times because of His seeming weirdness to their own sinful nature. Matthew 13:54 mentions His hometown even wondering where He became so wise only being the son of the carpenter. How about John 7:5 where even His own brothers didn't believe Him!
What about His disciples? He was alone even with them around at times as when they fell asleep as He went to pray. (Mark 14:37) Then there’s the times He spoke and they could not understand. As Jon Bloom said, Jesus had NO ONE to say I understand.
But this did not make His loneliness sinful! Loneliness itself is not sinful. Were it, Jesus would have not experienced it but He is our High Priest touched by our weaknesses and pain . (Hebrews 4:15) This is why we arrive again at Isaiah 53. His sorrow, grief, loneliness - all part of the Father's plan that He might be able to understand as a Man.
He became sin for us (2 Corinthians 5:21) and it was at this moment that Christ's loneliness reached it's climax. The apex of His lonely grief was manifested and magnified. He was set apart and reviled for being sinless. Forsaken by His Father, the Sinless became sin! He was the Man of Sorrows. He knew ULTIMATE REJECTION and LONELINESS! This is why He is perfectly able to understand our times.
There is hope. There is an end to loneliness. Christ defeated it by rising again and returning to the Father, never to be sacrificed again, never to be looked away from again. (Hebrews 10:10) Christ has removed the ultimate reason for loneliness. It pleased Him to be alienated from God, that we might have that full fellowship with the Father! (Ephesians 2:19)
Loneliness is real but it should bring us back to joy, to hope, to eternal things. It is meant to separate us for a season and bring us to God emotionally and spiritually. Just as Christ would get alone to pray, so we can and should when it comes to us. Until that loneliness fades on the day of 1 Corinthians 13:12, Jesus understands. Talk to Him about it.